Is your personal vow the new love letter?
Yes! Your vow is your message to declare your love to your partner.
For many of us perhaps a thing of the past, but by writing your vows to your partner you’re actually writing a love letter to that person. You’re going to read these carefully chosen words not only during your wedding ceremony in Crete but also during the renewal of your vows. The only difference is; this love letter is part of your wedding ceremony and by that open to all in the wedding party. Impress everybody, but most of all your partner.
These vows/love letter is no more than what it is you love about your partner. Are these vows difficult to write…YES! So here’s some advice on how to write your personal vows.
How to write your vows?
Avoid a copy and paste from the Internet. It’s tempting, but remember that you declare your future partner the best you have. This can only be done if you open your heart in your personal vows.
Please find some writing tips below;
This seems like a no-brainer, but I’m often shocked to see how many couples leave those three little words out of their vows. Say it out loud in front of everybody.
Most wedding vows touch on sticking around through good times and bad. The reality is all marriages have cycles of peaks and valleys. It’s nice to communicate your intent to get through those valleys together. Stepping into a valley is not difficult, it’s how you combine both personalities to climb out of that valley.
It’s so much more interesting for friends or family to hear about your odd quirks and raw personal moments. Your guests want to hear vows that are real. If you’ve been through bumpy spots, you should express that. Be honest and open
Vows aren’t just cute anecdotes—they are a promise and serious commitment that you’re making in front of a whole lot of witnesses. That doesn’t mean they have to be heavy though. You can vow to not only stick by their side forever but to also be the one to kill spiders whenever they creep their way into your home.
You’ve gathered your friends and family to celebrate your wedding, but you’ll need them just as much during your marriage. The role of family and friends who will help support you when times get tough.
The ability to make your significant other smile and even laugh out loud during your ceremony will serve you well in your marriage. There’s no better way to impress the family in law by making them laugh.
Don’t write your vows together.
Don’t write them together. Keep your deepest thoughts until the very last moment during the ceremony. Take the time and create an atmosphere that’s relaxing for you. Write from the heart and forget what others may think. Of course, I will provide more than enough samples to take inspiration from. It is always much easier to edit others’ work.
Together we make sure that you end up with stunning vows that will not only impress your partner but family and friends as well.
Reading Your Wedding Vows During The Ceremony
Most times the wedding couples find it difficult to read their vows aloud in front of family and friends. Emotions can run high or it’s the pressure of being upfront. It’s there where your wedding celebrant can play a key role. Well before the ceremony takes place we decide how to handle the vows reading.
The wedding couple can decide to start reading themselves. When emotions run too high, your wedding celebrant can take over seamlessly without anybody knowing the difference.
Or, I ask the wedding couple to hold hands and look into each other’s eyes and forget everything out there (for a moment). I will read your vows aloud out of your name. They’re still your words, your thoughts and your feelings.
After the ceremony I often take the personal vows, put them in an envelope, and hand them over to the newlyweds with the words “open this envelope in times you see each other different, read them out loud together and rethink”. Aside from all the other elements in the ceremony, reading your vows is THE moment that you will remember. Your declaration of love towards each other.